Tuesday, October 7, 2008

Judgments again....

I didn’t think I would be writing another post on how frustrating it is by the judgments of others but it amazes me how petty and nasty some people can be. As bloggers we write to share our experiences our inner most thoughts, stories tidbits of our lives etc... I can’t speak for everyone but I usually enjoy reading the comments people leave. I appreciate all the people who read my words and those that take the time to comment. I applaud those who even if they don’t understand my relationship see the happiness it brings me and acknowledge that while it might not be right for them it works for me and Master.

It’s the people that seem to have an agenda, an insistence that their way is the only way that sadden and befuddle me. Its times when I read comments to posts that tell the writer that they aren’t a “true” or “real” Dom, slave, whatever. Who is anyone to tell anyone else that they aren’t a “true” anything? At times I feel like I’m back in high school.

Wouldn’t it be much more productive if comments were made from the person leaving the comments perspective instead of from a place of judgment or attack. I know when I comment I try to only speak from my perspective, my experiences. I may state how a particular post made me feel but I make an effort not to attack the person who wrote it.

As I stated once before in another post I feel that there are way too many people who hold judgment against those of us who choose to live a kink lifestyle for people who are in the lifestyle to pass judgment on the ways in which we define our relationships. It’s a shame that we all can’t acknowledge that there isn’t a “right” way or a “wrong” way to any of this that it’s really just about what makes us happy. If you’re kink is kinkier than mine and you are happy with it congratulations on finding what does it for you but please don’t put mine or others down. There is enough room in this world for everyone to have their own variation.

1 comment:

Nathanial said...

Well said!!!!
The adage "to each his/her own" applies here and possibly more so in our kink world than any other.

If you have read my blog you will know that my realtionship with Mistress is different for so many reasons.

but it works for us and thats all that matters to us!

hang in there!!