tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6362743264716367263.post2098985356582248898..comments2023-06-06T06:27:05.278-04:00Comments on Collared: my life as a slave: Male SubmissivesMasters slavehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03964258891331823479noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6362743264716367263.post-23407418567662690952010-08-19T16:03:55.309-04:002010-08-19T16:03:55.309-04:00i'm a submissive man with a dominant woman. we...i'm a submissive man with a dominant woman. we have a strange d/s relationship.. she is my fiancee and i love her in that way, but in the bedroom she is sometimes ((though not always)) my master. mostly, day to day, i'm the dominant one.. i tell her to go do the laundry or wash the dishes or feed the animals.. but when she gets that tone of voice and tells me to do it i do it right away. most of our friends dont quite understand us.. because normally i appear to be the one in control.. until she uses that tone of voice.. then she's in complete control. i guess there are some submissive men out there - i'm one of them.Shadowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04623509491998920996noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6362743264716367263.post-1614715578641035102009-03-11T06:29:00.000-04:002009-03-11T06:29:00.000-04:00@Grand_Marquis - thank you for your very insightfu...@Grand_Marquis - thank you for your very insightful comment. I agree that it isn't just a bdsm thing. I also agree that submissive men tend to be ignored. Stereotypes are so difficult to break especially on the subconscious level.Masters slavehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03964258891331823479noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6362743264716367263.post-84598293771370274852009-03-11T04:56:00.000-04:002009-03-11T04:56:00.000-04:00Truth is, this isn't just a bdsm thing. All relat...Truth is, this isn't just a bdsm thing. All relationships require a dominant and submissive role be filled between the two parties. And socially, all cultures have managed to overgeneralized the tendency for men to fill the dominant and women to fill the submissive roles, purely out of a necessity for reproductive efficiency. If a relationship works, then it's more likely to produce children whose ancestry can be tracked. So pandering to the majority is important, even if that majority isn't that major.<BR/><BR/>These days, this entrenched assumption is really one of the biggest impasse's confronting any hope of real gender equality. The idea that women can say, "women can be strong too!" is devalued if men can't also say, "men can be weak too!" And our inability to get around this is leading to, if you ask me, the very collapse of the Family Unit that the christian right is always whining about.<BR/><BR/>The problem stems from both men and women, based on the same caveat: Woman can be dominant, or they can be submissive; MEN can only be dominant. Suddenly, you've broken the cycle. Dominant women only seek out or look for dominant men, believing submissive men to be less male, and therefore beneath their station. Through this, they doom their relationship before it even starts. Imagine a bdsm relationship where both parties claim to be the Dom, and you immediately understand why this kind of relationship just doesn't work. Eventually, something has to break.<BR/><BR/>Meanwhile, submissive men ignore or resent dominant women, because they constantly finding themselves yearning to play that role that only women get to play - where the dominant figure makes the first tangible move, asks them out, or otherwise initiates the relationship. So they find themselves turning to other submissive women, with whom they at least share something in common. And this relationship is doomed as well, because one of the two will be forced into a dominant role, which they will grow to resent, until the situation becomes unbearable.<BR/><BR/>But it's true, stereotypes are difficult things to erase. Especially when the people who utilize them most don't actually realize they're stereotyping in the first place.Grand_Marquishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10720492314088773509noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6362743264716367263.post-52918864002668729882009-03-08T09:53:00.000-04:002009-03-08T09:53:00.000-04:00This comment has been removed by the author.Mitten from Smittenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16780537793489074014noreply@blogger.com